Time to take a break from all the relationship talk, and move onto something far more raunchy, and definitely more interesting: sex. If you have read previous posts on this blog, you will understand that sex is an important part of my life, and I believe it should be given a lot more value on an emotional level.
For me, sex is more than just the act itself, it provides definition and solidifies your feelings towards someone. A theory that I have held consistent throughout my life, is that as soon as the sex starts failing the relationship is bound to go downhill. Having said that, this decline in the quality of the relationship works at it’s own pace, taking up to years to complete it’s journey. Sex is an important part of any relationship. Without sex, it’s basically a close friendship with some added intimacy. However, as soon as sex becomes a chore and is no longer a regular occurrence, warning bells should be flashing. I’m not saying that one night of being ‘too tired’ is a reason to question the relationship, however if this behaviour continues it may be a sign that your relationship is failing.
What makes sex so significant? Coming from my experience in monogamous relationships, sex is something you want to share with one person. Without this level of intimacy, other forms of affinity gradually begin to wear away. This decline in libido could be due to various causes. You might not be attracted to your partner in a sexual manner anymore, it may be due to a decline in understand, or simply due to sickness. It’s a given that the amount of sex declines as the relationship matures, possibly due to the fact that it is no longer ‘new’, however as soon as the quality decreases one should question the authenticity of their relationship. I would be really interested to hear thoughts on this topic. How much importance do you place on sex? Is it essential in a relationship? It’s fairly obvious where I stand, but I’d love to know what you think.