Part two in the series, time to get down to business! This post will be primarily directly at lesbian sex, however I will attempt to make some references to heterosexual intercourse, as well. I’ve decided to split this topic up into two posts, simply because its magnitude. I will cover compare and contrast the two different forms of sex from an emotional level in this post, and from a physical level in the next. Of course, I’m making generalizations based on my own opinions and these do not apply to every male or female.
Let’s start with lesbian sex, the one which I obviously favour more. The thing that really stands out to me would have to be the foreplay. if one thing girls are really good at, it is that. The back tracing, the neck kissing, the hand caressing; it all adds up to something. Even talking about sex seems to be far more erotic with girls. A discussion, with a friend, the other day, sparked by this topic lead me to reach an interesting conclusion.
The main difference between lesbian and heterosexual sex is the motives. With lesbian sex, it is all about mutual pleasure; in most cases you’re more interested in pleasing your partner, rather than your own sexual gratification. The same cannot be said about ‘straight’ sex. I think this is primarily due to the fact that boys climax/reach an orgasm far easier/quicker than males (once again, i am making generalisations). Due to this, it is far easier to focus on merely the males pleasure rather than both partners, causing a far less intimate, and ‘one-sided’ experience.
As for the actual intercourse, it’s not that different. Of course, oral sex is more prominent in lesbian sex, and this is considered to be the easiest way for a woman to orgasm. However, this is not the only way. Lesbian sex is far more interested in the clit stimulation, but at the end of the day it really comes down to what you fancy, considering that orgasms can still be established from ‘penis-to-vagina’ contact as well. It also depends on how much attention is given to the woman, and her needs. This brings us back to our last point, sexual gratification is positively correlated with the attention given to both people’s needs. The emotional connection established through this mutual concern creates better sex overall.
Basically, this is what I’m trying to say; it doesn’t matter who you have sex with as long as the motives embody both partners. It is impossible to say that one type of sex is better, and it depends on the individual. However, if you are interested in the ‘nitty-gritty’ details stay tuned for next segment where I will be discussing the physical aspects in greater detail. Any general musings/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.